What It Really Means When You’re Being Judgmental

Have you ever been that girl? You know what I mean… that girl. The girl who can’t be happy for anyone else whether it be on social media or in real life, because she’s too busy judging and hating on everyone else? I think we’ve all had our moments!

e.g. “Ew, did you see her new boyfriend? I heard he’s under 6 feet tall. And he took her to Olive Garden for their one month anniversary. How tacky.”

I can honestly say I’ve been this girl about one too many times to count. Sometimes it feels so much easier to be mean and judgy than happy for other people. But what does it say about us when we act this way?

Well, I’m here to tell ya! This can actually give us so much insight into what we want in our lives when we are judgmental toward other people. Yes, maybe you think Olive Garden is tacky for a monthiversary. But in actuality when you’re judging and being rude to that couple, it speaks volumes in another way. You want love in your life! You wish you had a boyfriend who took you out to dinner. You wish you had someone to go on dates with and share bottomless breadsticks. And thats OKAY! When we can admit that we’re judging other people out of jealously and want, then we are able to take our lives to a whole new level.

Let’s go with another example. Let’s say that you follow a girl on Instagram who gets to travel for work, makes lots of money, and gets clothes sent to her for free. You might have thoughts like “Who does this girl think she is? She doesn’t deserve all of these nice things. HA! Must be nice to not have to work for anything in your life.” I’ll be honest, I’ve heard the phrase “must be nice…” about one too many times, and I literally hate it. It actually makes me cringe and gives me chills down my spine. Because guess what…

It is nice. It’s really nice, and looks nice, and you probably wish you had those nice things too. Guess what’s even better? You can. You have the ability to have whatever you want in life. You are where you are right now because of decisions and choices that you have made, whether you like them or not. So if you don’t like them, then change them! I could pick up tomorrow and decide that I want to sing on a cruise ship or move to the middle-of-nowhere Nebraska. We have so much more power over our lives than we realize. So when you’re feeling jealous, hateful or judgmental toward other people, take a deep breath and think. Realize that these feelings are coming up because they have something you wish you could have too. (Because let’s be honest, you wouldn’t comment on it if you didn’t care). So why not turn those negative feelings and emotions into something productive, positive and useful?

Step 1 is realizing what you’re jealous about in someone else, and acknowledging that you’re being jealous/hateful/angry because there is something there that you want too. Acknowledgement is key! If you can’t acknowledge that you’re being jealous then you can never move on and be productive in your life, because you won’t be able to get to Step 2, which is realization of desires. So I realize I hate this girl, because she gets to travel and not work and have financial freedom. Step 2 would be then acknowledging that I actually hate her because I also want to travel, not work and have financial freedom. So then Step 3 would be coming up with plans of action to take to get there.

Ah, plans of action. I could go into a whole other ramble about this. Some people say manifest and pray and things will happen for you. Some people say that’s a bunch of B.S. and you have to work hard to get things you want in life. I say…both. And neither! The best way I can put it is this: If you want something in your life, go after it. Because you do have the ability to have whatever your heart desires. And if you aren’t sure how to go after it, first start with clearing your mind and doing a manifesting meditation like this one. Once you are perfectly clear on what you desire, then start taking baby steps to get there. Apply for jobs in that new place, research apartments in that area, reach out to acquaintances you know who live there. Make a vision board. Meditate again. Go for a run. Visualize. Plan a trip. Plan a move. Whatever you want, you can have. I believe in manifestation mixed with inspired action. If you are taking action from a clear and inspired mind, the world is your oyster.

For more information on this topic, check out my lastest podcast!

How To Start Your Own Podcast

Click if you want to listen to my episode on how to start your own podcast!

So today I want to teach you guys how to start your own podcast! In full transparency, it’s super easy. I started my podcast in under 24 hours for basically FREE. If you want to learn how to start your own podcast follow these steps…you could seriously have your own podcast by tomorrow if you follow along 😉

  1. Podcast Name & What It’s About: This is the most fun! Coming up with the name of your podcast and what you want it to be about is always fun because you get to be creative with it. What topics are you passionate about? Is there something you feel that you could talk about for hours? And for coming up with the name of your podcast, think of fun plays on your name (that’s what I did!) What words does your name rhyme with? Are there any puns having to do with the topic at hand? This may take awhile to get the perfect name, but bounce some ideas off of your friends and see what sticks 🙂 Even comment on this post and I can help you too!
  2. Create Your Cover Art: I think this part is so fun too! Creating your cover art that will be featured for your podcast is way easier than you think, and it’s also another fun way to express yourself and get creative. Go to this website to create your cover art super easily, and FOR FREE! They even have podcast templates to help get you started.
  3. Get Your Equipment: This is where you may need to do some Amazon shopping! I’m going to assume that everyone has a computer, so we don’t need to invest in that. But something that you may need is a USB microphone. I use this one and it was cheap and works perfectly fine! If you don’t want to spend the money, you can try recording with just your computer microphone and see if that works well enough for you. If not, order the mic!
  4. Recording Software: Again being fully honest, I use a completely free app to record my podcast! Download it here. It’s super easy, free, and user friendly.
  5. Record Your Intro: You’re going to need some cute music for your intro and outro on your podcast! I found my free music from this free for use music website here. It was super easy and quick!
  6. Find Your Podcast Host: You will need a podcast host to basically house your podcast. This is how you get featured on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and more. The easiest and only podcast host I’ve ever used is Buzzsprout. Sign up with this link to receive a free $20 Amazon Gift Card when you sign up for a paid plan! (Basically getting your money back plus more) 🙂 They also have the option for a free plan, but I pay as little as $12 per month with my plan and it is 100% worth it for the amount of podcasting time I am allowed to upload per month.
  7. Have Your Guests Call In: This is my secret sauce to having podcast guests call in from all over the world, for free! But you’ll have to listen to the very end of my podcast episode to find out what it is 😉 Click above to listen!

Let me know if this helped any of you to start your own podcast! I have been podcasting for almost one year now and I am so proud to share how much I’ve learned along the way ❤

Fitness Update: Help, Stuck!

Hey guys! It’s been a few weeks since I’ve posted anything on here (oops!) but I wanted to update you guys on my fitness journey. I’ve still been trying to work out multiple times a week and eat healthy, but I have to say that I am stuck at about 149 lbs still! I need some advice and tips for getting over this hump.

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I will say that I don’t feel like I’ve been eating as healthy and I’ve been having way too many cheat days… It’s been hard for me to stay motivated when I’m not seeing the results as quickly as I was before. Do you guys have any tips for continuing to lose weight after you’ve lost the initial “easier” weight?

I’ve also been struggling with finding easy, healthy meals to make! The things that I was eating before I ended up getting so tired of, and I haven’t been going to the grocery as often as I need to be either. I’ve been eating Chopt and Sweetgreen salads a lot, but I don’t think that they are even as healthy as I’m thinking they are.

I have also thought about trying BBG Stronger by Kayla Itsines.  A few of my friends have tried it and have really loved it! I tried Kayla’s original BBG program and I’m not going to lie, I totally wanted to throw up afterward 😂 But I’ve heard that BBG Stronger is a lot slower and more about the weights than jumping around, so if you’ve tried that and would recommend it let me know.

I need some motivation and tips to keep going on this fitness journey, I just really don’t want to get back up to my initial weight. If anyone has any ideas or ways that they got through this, leave a comment or send a DM! Thanks guys 🙂

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Self-Care Tips for the Lazy Girl (me)

Admittedly, I am one of the laziest people I know when it comes to self-care. I am terrible at remembering to wash my face, shave, wash my hair, take care of my skin, etc. BUT I have figured out easy ways to fit some of these things into my schedule…self-care for the lazy girl! Here are my top tips, enjoy 🙂

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  1. Moisturize IN the shower– this sounds silly, but I actually just started keeping a small body moisturizer in the shower, so right after I dry off I moisturize right away! Once I get to my room I know I won’t do it, so it helps to do it while still in the shower.
  2. Face Washing Made Easy–  This is actually kind of embarrassing, but when I don’t feel like splashing my face with water in the early mornings, I use the Mario Badescu Rosewater facial spray to spritz my face, scrub a little soap, and the spritz again and wipe my face off. Super low maintenance and it helps to wash my face without the mess!
  3. Eyelash Extensions– this is one of those high maintenance/low maintenance situations. Getting eyelash extensions was something that I am still unsure about, but I have found that it has cut my makeup routine IN HALF, and has boosted my no-makeup confidence! I still feel put together with the extensions on but no other makeup. This has also been a blessing for my skin, not feeling the need to wear foundation every day!
  4. Dry Shampoo/Hairstyle Days– I am a huge believer in dry shampoo to get through those days to weeks of not feeling like washing my hair. But I have found that my hair tends to feel dry with the dry shampoo, and it makes my scalp dry as well. Lately, I’ve been washing my hair once every 4 days and just plan my hairstyles for each day! On day 1 I wear my hair down since it’s clean, day 2 I can still get away with it down, day 3 I may do a bun or ponytail, and day 4/5 I wear a hat (lol!)
  5. Make Things More Accessible– I have so many face masks, moisturizers, spot treatments, teeth whiteners, etc. that I always want to try but never get to. I used to keep them in my bathroom, but I realized after awhile this never really worked for me because they weren’t immediately accessible and I was always too lazy to go get them. Now I finally have a nightstand/desk situation in my room where I keep all of my products that I want to try. So when I am having a lazy day/night in bed, I look over and try that face mask or teeth whitener that I’ve been wanting to! This really works for anything you want to add into your self-care routine.

That is all for my self-care tips for the lazy girl! Do you have any fun/easy self-care routines that you would recommend? Comment and let me know! 🙂

 

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Best New York City Eats

Whether you live in New York or are just stopping by for a visit, it’s always fun to find those “under the radar” food spots that won’t be completely tourist packed. These are my top five places I’ve eaten at in NYC that I’d never heard of before moving here, but would highly recommend!

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  1. The Doughnut Plant– Featured on The Food Network some years ago, this doughnut shop is a hidden gem tucked away into the Lower East Side. It has super unique doughnut flavors which is a draw, but honestly their doughnuts are so moist and flavorful that this is what keeps me coming back. I would recommend the black & white, the blueberry, or any of the cake doughnuts!

2.  Hotel Chantelle– While expensive, we actually got a Groupon to go here and had the most amazing meal! I would highly recommend the giant pretzel and the sangria with white wine. Both were amazing! We also ordered two entrees and it was a lot of food, so I’d recommend getting drinks and apps at this spot. The roof and atmosphere are also outstanding!

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3. Sticky’s Finger Joint– I know this sounds silly, but if you get sick of the whole Shake Shack scene but want a quick junk-food bite, I love this NYC joint for chicken fingers/nuggets and fries. Side note, their honey mustard is impeccable.

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4. Black Tap– This one goes against the whole “not tourist packed” thing, but if you are visiting New York and are willing to wait in a long line, this burger joint has the most incredible milkshakes (tasty and insta-worthy). The line can take anywhere from 30 min. to an hour, but if you want to get in faster then go with a small group during a non-peak time, and sit at the bar instead of a table! The location in Soho also tends to be a little less packed than the one in Midtown.

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5. Bubby’sAnother one that will be a bit of a wait, but SO worth it. This was seriously one of the best brunches I’ve had in the city! Located right by the high-line in Chelsea, this one does tend to attract tourists, but if you wait near the bar the seating is first come first serve, so we walked right in and sat down! Their mimosas were super bubbly and their brunch menu is seriously to die for. Go get the biscuits!

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That is all for my food blog post! Do you have any other places you’d recommend eating at in New York City? Obviously I’m not on a health kick at the moment, so I’m open to any and all suggestions (lol). Comment with your favorite food spots!

 

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How to Live in NYC

Hello, blogging world friends! Lately I’ve been getting a lot of questions about living in New York City, from close friends to strangers wanting to know how I managed to move here. While I do often feel like I’m living an amazing dream, moving to New York isn’t actually that difficult or scary to do! Here are my top four tips on how to move to New York City if this is your dream, or even if it’s something you’ve just considered!

  1. Apply, apply, apply: I know this one is obvious, but applying for jobs here is the number one way to get your butt to New York. Once you land a job here, you have an automatic reason to move here! I moved here for an internship that ended up not working out for me, but it got me to this city that I’ve always wanted to live in, so it all worked out in the end! It’s also so much easier to land a job in New York once you already live here.
  2. Don’t be afraid of failure: I think that me, along with billions of other people are nervous to take big leaps out of fear of failure. Moving to New York was scary because I wasn’t sure if I’d like living in a big city or if I could really do this. But for me, “what ifs” aren’t a good enough reason to not follow through with big dreams. I’d also like to say that moving somewhere and not loving your job, home, or situation is not a failure! It is a huge success to take these leaps, no matter the outcome.
  3. Think short term:  Remember that you are signing a lease to live here for one year. You aren’t committing the rest of your life to this place, so if you are nervous that NYC may not be the place for you but you’ve always wanted to try it, then give it a go! I always play the “what’s the worst thing that could happen” card. For me, it was coming here and absolutely hating it. This wasn’t the case, but it is nice remembering that I have the option to stay here until July and then can move anywhere else I’d like. You aren’t stuck here!
  4. Fake it ’til you make it: This is the biggest step that I took when deciding I wanted to move to New York City. I literally did everything that I could in pretending that I was already moving to New York City. I apartment hunted online, applied for jobs, read books, read blogs, made dream boards, messaged potential roommates, talked to people who live here…even though my parents thought I was crazy, I literally just went along pretending like I was moving to New York, even though at the time I had no plans to! Even if you’re “faking it” or just going through the motions with no real end in sight, I truly believe that these things really do help you to get what you want in the end.

I hope this gives a little insight into the mentality and approach I took when deciding I wanted to move to New York City, and how to get here! This could really apply to anyone looking to move to any city, but I’ve been getting a lot of questions specific to New York so I thought I’d share 🙂 Comment with any other New York questions or New York post ideas, I’d love to share what I’ve learned so far!

 

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Updated Makeup Routine: Everyday Full Coverage

Hi friends! I’ve actually been getting some questions about my current makeup routine, usually from customers while I’m at work or people while I’m out running errands. The main questions I get are about my eyelashes and my foundation, so I figured why not do an updated makeup routine on my current favorites!

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  1. Moisturizer- My all time favorite moisturizer is THIS Clinique one, it gives such a healthy glow under my foundation.
  2. Foundation- I use this Estee Lauder foundation religiously. I’ve used it in the past, stopped, but I’m hooked again. It’s just too good, and the coverage can’t be beat.
  3. Concealer- This IT Cosmetics concealer is EVERYTHING. It looks like natural, glowy skin and honestly provides the best coverage.
  4. Powder- I use this Estee Lauder duo powder/highlight mix on top of my concealer and foundation. It gives extra coverage, but the mix of the highlight gives another nice healthy glow (I HATE being matte!)
  5. Brows- This is my favorite brow gel, I don’t have a favorite pencil at the moment because I always feel like I’m overdoing it when I’m filling in my brows completely! This one looks natural but makes your brows fuller.
  6. Lips- This NARS lipstick in Sex Machine is the best color and consistency. It isn’t longwear which is definitely a con, but the natural plump pink look it gives to my lips is great for every day.
  7. Mascara- THE HOLY GRAIL. NOTHING CAN BE BEAT. FLY LASHES, FLY.
  8. Eyeliner- This Stila eyeliner will literally not move, and I’ve had the best luck at creating wings with this. Pricy for an eyeliner, but it’s staying power is really what you’re paying for.
  9. Blush- This blush is so perfect, natural and glowy. I love all of the baked products from this brand!
  10. Bronzer- I actually don’t have a bronzer that I love at the moment! I was using the Too Faced bronzer and still do occasionally, but it just is starting to look a little matte and muddy for my liking. If you couldn’t tell, I really like “natural and glowy”, lol.

Thanks so much for taking the time to read my blog! If you have any favorite products that I should try, comment below and leave the link! I also love following other new bloggers so let’s connect 🙂

Olivia