What It Really Means When You’re Being Judgmental

Have you ever been that girl? You know what I mean… that girl. The girl who can’t be happy for anyone else whether it be on social media or in real life, because she’s too busy judging and hating on everyone else? I think we’ve all had our moments!

e.g. “Ew, did you see her new boyfriend? I heard he’s under 6 feet tall. And he took her to Olive Garden for their one month anniversary. How tacky.”

I can honestly say I’ve been this girl about one too many times to count. Sometimes it feels so much easier to be mean and judgy than happy for other people. But what does it say about us when we act this way?

Well, I’m here to tell ya! This can actually give us so much insight into what we want in our lives when we are judgmental toward other people. Yes, maybe you think Olive Garden is tacky for a monthiversary. But in actuality when you’re judging and being rude to that couple, it speaks volumes in another way. You want love in your life! You wish you had a boyfriend who took you out to dinner. You wish you had someone to go on dates with and share bottomless breadsticks. And thats OKAY! When we can admit that we’re judging other people out of jealously and want, then we are able to take our lives to a whole new level.

Let’s go with another example. Let’s say that you follow a girl on Instagram who gets to travel for work, makes lots of money, and gets clothes sent to her for free. You might have thoughts like “Who does this girl think she is? She doesn’t deserve all of these nice things. HA! Must be nice to not have to work for anything in your life.” I’ll be honest, I’ve heard the phrase “must be nice…” about one too many times, and I literally hate it. It actually makes me cringe and gives me chills down my spine. Because guess what…

It is nice. It’s really nice, and looks nice, and you probably wish you had those nice things too. Guess what’s even better? You can. You have the ability to have whatever you want in life. You are where you are right now because of decisions and choices that you have made, whether you like them or not. So if you don’t like them, then change them! I could pick up tomorrow and decide that I want to sing on a cruise ship or move to the middle-of-nowhere Nebraska. We have so much more power over our lives than we realize. So when you’re feeling jealous, hateful or judgmental toward other people, take a deep breath and think. Realize that these feelings are coming up because they have something you wish you could have too. (Because let’s be honest, you wouldn’t comment on it if you didn’t care). So why not turn those negative feelings and emotions into something productive, positive and useful?

Step 1 is realizing what you’re jealous about in someone else, and acknowledging that you’re being jealous/hateful/angry because there is something there that you want too. Acknowledgement is key! If you can’t acknowledge that you’re being jealous then you can never move on and be productive in your life, because you won’t be able to get to Step 2, which is realization of desires. So I realize I hate this girl, because she gets to travel and not work and have financial freedom. Step 2 would be then acknowledging that I actually hate her because I also want to travel, not work and have financial freedom. So then Step 3 would be coming up with plans of action to take to get there.

Ah, plans of action. I could go into a whole other ramble about this. Some people say manifest and pray and things will happen for you. Some people say that’s a bunch of B.S. and you have to work hard to get things you want in life. I say…both. And neither! The best way I can put it is this: If you want something in your life, go after it. Because you do have the ability to have whatever your heart desires. And if you aren’t sure how to go after it, first start with clearing your mind and doing a manifesting meditation like this one. Once you are perfectly clear on what you desire, then start taking baby steps to get there. Apply for jobs in that new place, research apartments in that area, reach out to acquaintances you know who live there. Make a vision board. Meditate again. Go for a run. Visualize. Plan a trip. Plan a move. Whatever you want, you can have. I believe in manifestation mixed with inspired action. If you are taking action from a clear and inspired mind, the world is your oyster.

For more information on this topic, check out my lastest podcast!

Fitness Update: Help, Stuck!

Hey guys! It’s been a few weeks since I’ve posted anything on here (oops!) but I wanted to update you guys on my fitness journey. I’ve still been trying to work out multiple times a week and eat healthy, but I have to say that I am stuck at about 149 lbs still! I need some advice and tips for getting over this hump.

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I will say that I don’t feel like I’ve been eating as healthy and I’ve been having way too many cheat days… It’s been hard for me to stay motivated when I’m not seeing the results as quickly as I was before. Do you guys have any tips for continuing to lose weight after you’ve lost the initial “easier” weight?

I’ve also been struggling with finding easy, healthy meals to make! The things that I was eating before I ended up getting so tired of, and I haven’t been going to the grocery as often as I need to be either. I’ve been eating Chopt and Sweetgreen salads a lot, but I don’t think that they are even as healthy as I’m thinking they are.

I have also thought about trying BBG Stronger by Kayla Itsines.  A few of my friends have tried it and have really loved it! I tried Kayla’s original BBG program and I’m not going to lie, I totally wanted to throw up afterward 😂 But I’ve heard that BBG Stronger is a lot slower and more about the weights than jumping around, so if you’ve tried that and would recommend it let me know.

I need some motivation and tips to keep going on this fitness journey, I just really don’t want to get back up to my initial weight. If anyone has any ideas or ways that they got through this, leave a comment or send a DM! Thanks guys 🙂

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Self-Care Tips for the Lazy Girl (me)

Admittedly, I am one of the laziest people I know when it comes to self-care. I am terrible at remembering to wash my face, shave, wash my hair, take care of my skin, etc. BUT I have figured out easy ways to fit some of these things into my schedule…self-care for the lazy girl! Here are my top tips, enjoy 🙂

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  1. Moisturize IN the shower– this sounds silly, but I actually just started keeping a small body moisturizer in the shower, so right after I dry off I moisturize right away! Once I get to my room I know I won’t do it, so it helps to do it while still in the shower.
  2. Face Washing Made Easy–  This is actually kind of embarrassing, but when I don’t feel like splashing my face with water in the early mornings, I use the Mario Badescu Rosewater facial spray to spritz my face, scrub a little soap, and the spritz again and wipe my face off. Super low maintenance and it helps to wash my face without the mess!
  3. Eyelash Extensions– this is one of those high maintenance/low maintenance situations. Getting eyelash extensions was something that I am still unsure about, but I have found that it has cut my makeup routine IN HALF, and has boosted my no-makeup confidence! I still feel put together with the extensions on but no other makeup. This has also been a blessing for my skin, not feeling the need to wear foundation every day!
  4. Dry Shampoo/Hairstyle Days– I am a huge believer in dry shampoo to get through those days to weeks of not feeling like washing my hair. But I have found that my hair tends to feel dry with the dry shampoo, and it makes my scalp dry as well. Lately, I’ve been washing my hair once every 4 days and just plan my hairstyles for each day! On day 1 I wear my hair down since it’s clean, day 2 I can still get away with it down, day 3 I may do a bun or ponytail, and day 4/5 I wear a hat (lol!)
  5. Make Things More Accessible– I have so many face masks, moisturizers, spot treatments, teeth whiteners, etc. that I always want to try but never get to. I used to keep them in my bathroom, but I realized after awhile this never really worked for me because they weren’t immediately accessible and I was always too lazy to go get them. Now I finally have a nightstand/desk situation in my room where I keep all of my products that I want to try. So when I am having a lazy day/night in bed, I look over and try that face mask or teeth whitener that I’ve been wanting to! This really works for anything you want to add into your self-care routine.

That is all for my self-care tips for the lazy girl! Do you have any fun/easy self-care routines that you would recommend? Comment and let me know! 🙂

 

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Moving to a New City: Adjustments & Changes

Life in New York City is so different than anywhere else I’ve lived. From growing up in Ohio to living in South Carolina for four years of school, I felt like I’d already seen a lot! But as most would guess, NYC is completely different than any other city, and rightfully so. If you’ve ever considered living here or are just curious about the differences in day to day routines, then keep reading!

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1. Transportation– this one seems obvious, but it took me the most time to get adjusted to. Taking the subway and walking are what I do most since I’ve moved here, and I’ll admit I do miss my alone time in the car! But it’s so cheap to subway (2.75 per ride) and I always get my 10,000 steps a day with walking everywhere 😂 if you’re visiting NYC and are trying to figure out the subway system, my biggest suggestion is to download the Citymapper app, and to just ask people and read signs! I am one of the most directionally challenged people I know and I still somehow figured out the New York City subway system, so you can too!

2. Food– I’d never really thought about this one before, but grocery shopping can be a real pain in the ass when you don’t have a car to dump all of your shit into! I tend to go grocery shopping for smaller quantities more often, which can get annoying but I’ve gotten used to it. It’s also a great workout carrying your groceries and walking home! 😂 Another thing all New Yorkers seem to do is eat out quite often.

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3. Dating– Literally every girl I’ve talked to in New York says the only way to date here is online dating. Obviously in college my friends and I dabbled in Bumble and Tinder, but New York City has its whole own array of options when it comes to dating apps. I’ve been a fan of The League and Hinge!

4. Tourists– I quickly went from being a newbie New Yorker that stopped and stared at everything, to being soooo annoyed by slow tourists that stop in the middle of the sidewalk to take pictures 😂 It doesn’t help that I live on Wall Street down in Fidi and walk out my front door to a sea of tourists that I have to navigate my way through, lol.

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5. The Vibes– As fast paced as New York City is, I’ve also found that it is one of the friendliest cities I’ve ever lived in. As surprising as it is, I feel like strangers from the subway to the streets are willing to stop and chat, help with directions, and so much more. I’ve seen a family help an old lady up the stairs, and men helping women carry their strollers down into the subway. It makes my heart so full!

That’s all for now! What have your biggest adjustments been when moving to a new city? Comment below and let me know!

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Best New York City Eats

Whether you live in New York or are just stopping by for a visit, it’s always fun to find those “under the radar” food spots that won’t be completely tourist packed. These are my top five places I’ve eaten at in NYC that I’d never heard of before moving here, but would highly recommend!

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  1. The Doughnut Plant– Featured on The Food Network some years ago, this doughnut shop is a hidden gem tucked away into the Lower East Side. It has super unique doughnut flavors which is a draw, but honestly their doughnuts are so moist and flavorful that this is what keeps me coming back. I would recommend the black & white, the blueberry, or any of the cake doughnuts!

2.  Hotel Chantelle– While expensive, we actually got a Groupon to go here and had the most amazing meal! I would highly recommend the giant pretzel and the sangria with white wine. Both were amazing! We also ordered two entrees and it was a lot of food, so I’d recommend getting drinks and apps at this spot. The roof and atmosphere are also outstanding!

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3. Sticky’s Finger Joint– I know this sounds silly, but if you get sick of the whole Shake Shack scene but want a quick junk-food bite, I love this NYC joint for chicken fingers/nuggets and fries. Side note, their honey mustard is impeccable.

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4. Black Tap– This one goes against the whole “not tourist packed” thing, but if you are visiting New York and are willing to wait in a long line, this burger joint has the most incredible milkshakes (tasty and insta-worthy). The line can take anywhere from 30 min. to an hour, but if you want to get in faster then go with a small group during a non-peak time, and sit at the bar instead of a table! The location in Soho also tends to be a little less packed than the one in Midtown.

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5. Bubby’sAnother one that will be a bit of a wait, but SO worth it. This was seriously one of the best brunches I’ve had in the city! Located right by the high-line in Chelsea, this one does tend to attract tourists, but if you wait near the bar the seating is first come first serve, so we walked right in and sat down! Their mimosas were super bubbly and their brunch menu is seriously to die for. Go get the biscuits!

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That is all for my food blog post! Do you have any other places you’d recommend eating at in New York City? Obviously I’m not on a health kick at the moment, so I’m open to any and all suggestions (lol). Comment with your favorite food spots!

 

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it’s time!

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It is officially time to start my blogging journey! For the past 5+ years I have wanted to start a blog, but have never had the motivation, time, support, resources, etc. Well, guess what? I currently have all of the above, and I am out of excuses! I just graduated from college, am currently unemployed (so I have time), my parents are helping me in whatever path I choose to take (I have support), and I have a computer and the internet (resources). The only factor that I was missing to start this blog was the motivation part. Then I read THIS BOOK.

This book has not only inspired me to write this post and start a blog, but it has inspired me to have a completely different outlook on life. Today, I have made the decision to live my absolute best life possible. And there are a few ways that I am going to do this.

  1. Dream the Dream- As the CEO of my life, I have made the executive decision to dream a little bigger and set some freakin goals for myself already. Blogging has been a goal of mine for so long, and guess what? It takes about 5 minutes to start a blog. So here we go. Some other goals of mine include moving to New York, working in fashion and beauty in some way, bringing out my inner creative, and eventually becoming an entrepreneur and starting up my own thing. I don’t know what that “thing” is yet, and that’s ok. Let’s start small and see where things take us.
  2. Positivity- I have decided to start looking at life a little bit brighter and happier. My favorite quote from the book was this: “If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.” Damn Lao Tzu, givin me the feels tonight !! I love this quote because it reminds me that I don’t have to focus on anything but the here and now, and that’s pretty cool.
  3. Connecting with Inner Me- No, this isn’t what you think it is, get your mind out of the gutter. “Inner me” refers to my higher self, or my subconscious mind. We don’t have to get all hippy dippy here, but when I meditate and listen to my inner self and higher being, I get some pretty solid answers that seem to make more sense than all of the blabber that is usually running through my brain.

So that’s all I’ve got for now! If you want to connect on wordpress or follow my journey, I would love to stay in touch. If you have any life advice, let’s connect. Or if you want to bask in our unknowingness together, that works for me too. Let’s do this.